As mothers we all love our kids. We would do anything for them, pass mountains if we wanted to. But, let’s be real. Sometimes those little ones can drive us crazy. My oldest are great, however once in a while they simply get at each others nerves. During those times it appears like I hear an overabundance of the screaming, whining, “Mom!” It is when I wish I can get away and hide.
I’ve tried the whole lot to hold the peace between my kids. Most of the time they do behave nicely, but once in awhile…well you can imagine. Once they really got on my last nerve. I wanted to scream. I wanted to yell. I wanted to just walk out of the house. But instead, I stood up, and excused myself and gave myself a time out. I marched right up to my room and closed the door.
In my room there was silence. I took some deep breaths and sat on my bed for a few minutes. The silence was enjoyable. Downstairs I noticed became really quiet. They were probably stunned that I walked away and gave myself timeout.
A few moments after I calmed down I went downstairs, had a conversation with my kids and peace was restored. So why did I give myself a time out? There were few reasons. Number one, I didn’t want to lash out at them. Screaming doesn’t help also, it only makes the problem worse. Removing myself was a way to make sure my feelings didn’t amplify unreasonably.
But, it was more than that. I wanted my kids to know that being aware of your emotions and taking the time out to reconfigure your thoughts is a good idea for anyone. A time out is not a mere punishment, it’s a coping mechanism. Taking the time to close your eyes, breathe, count to ten, can make you see your trouble in a whole new light.
And, while we are being honest, just having that time out break was lovely… and I’d do it again anytime.
Do you take time outs?