Love Yourself

At the age of eighteen, I recall announcing my pregnancy. Naturally, I was met with the standard “you’re so young!” and anything else. However, one remark that has always resonated with me is “you’re young, therefore you’ll definitely snap back!” “It’s better to have them young, less stretch marks!” or “It’s better to have them young, less stretch marks!” It stayed with me since I was a child.
Stretch marks and sagging skin are both undesirable.

I battled for a long time after having my kid. I didn’t like my belly button, so I tried to conceal it.

When I was pregnant with my son, I tried everything there was to help you with loose skin after a pregnancy, including stretch mark lotions.
I despised what I saw in the mirror after having my son.

I’d never expose my stomach.
When we were getting ready, I would turn away from my friends.
Only high-rise leggings or jeans would suffice.
Any time my stomach was accidentally exposed, I would turn crimson and hot.

I was browsing through my Instagram account one day, which was making me feel even worse, and I thought to myself, “When did natural bodies become so unloved, or so undesired?”
Who determined that stretch marks and loose skin weren’t attractive?
Didn’t you think you were good enough?
Were you not lovely enough?

When did it become OK to force all of these items on you in the hopes of losing everything your life and your children have given you?
I was resting on my side when I noticed the ripples on my stomach.
The marks were visible to me.
The extended belly button caught my attention.
I smiled as well.
This body is where I call home.

It was the place where my children grew up.
I still haven’t forgiven myself for the way I’ve talked about it for so long.
For allowing me to lose sight of how stunning natural bodies are.
Remember all that your body has done for you, and continues to do, the next time you look in the mirror and wish your stomach was back to how it was before kids.

It was the home of my children.
I still haven’t forgiven myself for the way I’ve talked about it for so long.
For allowing me to lose sight of how stunning natural bodies are.
Remember all that your body has done for you, and continues to do, the next time you look in the mirror and wish your stomach was back to how it was before kids.

Thank your body for everything.
Please accept my apologies.
It’s fantastic.
Stretch marks, cellulite, rolls, and a variety of belly buttons are all to be expected.
Beautiful.
Admirable.

Consider all that your body has done for you the next time you gaze in the mirror.
It’s incredibly amazing and astounding.